Hello. Right now we are looking at different ways to care for my mother. Brief background - 70 yrs old, glioblastoma, severe mobility issues, in December fell at home and broke her hip. Had surgery and now in rehab.
The team and I are thinking ahead to eventual discharge. The plan was always for Mom to be at home and never nursing home. At the moment we only qualify for aides 8 hours a day, 7 days a week. In process of trying to get more hours with NHTD program but approval takes several months.
Social worker at our law firm suggested we try an adult daycare, respite like services for Mom. During the day she would get care outside of the home with DALs and then be at home nights. At nights we could use her allowed 8 hours then and have an aide.
Am I failing as a caregiver or selfish if I do this?
What does your mother want? And do you have hospice?
Care giving is hard in every way whether you have help or go it alone. So if that is what you feel you need to do to maintain your optimum so that you can provide your Mom her optimum, then you choose wisely.
May God bless you.