She recently moved in with us from out of state. Has alzheimers. I thought I was going to be able to get her a place of her own but she is further along then I thought. I've brought her to a neurologists we go in for tests later this month. She is so mad that I have taken her keys and I am just overwhelmed at trying to get her settled and into a routine.
It's good that you're looking for back-up so early on. I, and I know many other people too, spent far too long trying to deal with everything and it rapidly gets overwhelming. With luck your local organisations will be able to suggest plenty of activities and support for her and things will soon be going much more smoothly. But to repeat, start forming an idea in your own mind of what might mean 'enough is enough' and research your options.
Yes I am very new at this. She was across the country and I knew things were getting worse but had know ideal how far. In some ways I feel I have brought this on just by getting her to move here. She has been with me for about two and a half months now. I took the keys away after she decided to take the car out while I was at work and got lost for six hours. I had the doctor back me up telling her it was dangerous for her to drive, but she forgets this and gets mad at me for doing so.
I contacted a non-profit yesterday and am going to see if I can get someone to spend time with her a couple of days a week. She says she is going stir crazy in the house even though myself and husband are here every weekend and evening.
Anyway, at least you'll be spared that, or worse. Meanwhile, respond to your mother's anger with sorrow and kind words. And be ready and able to take her anywhere she wants to go: do your best never to be too busy, at least for the time being.
Did you bargain for this kind of thing when you moved your mother? You're a brave girl to be keeping her at home. Don't be afraid to think again.
Your mom's had a lot of change in a short period of time. Going through that kind of change plus having Alzheimer's is very difficult on your mom. I think she'll settle down and you'll get into a routine. You didn't say how long it's been since she's moved in but I would imagine the upheaval has been difficult for your mom. You're stressed, she's stressed. And your mom's reasoning skills and capability to handle stress is probably affected by the Alzheimer's.
Just let a routine happen organically. Don't try to force one. Relax. You're capable of adapting and trying new things, your mom may not be. This is still new to her. You've done the right thing in getting her in to see a neurologist, getting her under a Dr.'s care.