A grand daughter has power of attorney and is taking advantage purchasing expense item for herself and fighting to spend a money on my mom. She has power of attorney and is using my poor mom who loves her dearly. My mom feel sorry for her and she is getting away with this, what can i do to protect my mom?
YOUR MOTHER IS ALIVE SHE"S NOT DEAD YET!!!!!
She talks about my Mothers assets or money that I went crazy trying to stretch out caring for "OUR MOTHER" as if it were hers (sister's) to decide where it went and had absolutely nothing to say but I can't help you this was your idea, and and the real killer is "YOU SHOULD BE THANKING ME!!!!" I did not take one cent of my mother's money to pay myself or use for my hard work. In fact when I went to the Medicaid application I forgot about a check I had gotten for the sale of Mom's car 200.00 I had the copy of the check and showed the proof of receiving it for the sale and I said I honestly spent that money on a weekend away with Mom... as I did. I knew it wouldn't be long until Mom won't be able to go anywhere without enjoying herself, I'll pay it back if I have to though! The lady said "I'm glad you did that for her." Smiled and I think she sensed my Love for my Mom and my sister's refusal to participate, other than her complaints, as I spoke to this woman repeatedly over a years time. I even said to her when we were done with application, our relationship is over.... Booo Hoooo I'll miss you LOL was a big joke I'm sure the woman was glad if she never heard from me again!!! I had the clearest most organized application free from questionable spending I think she ever saw. Three years later my sister still has an attitude. I don't care because my Mom is doing quite well thanks to me. My sister does not care to visit either.
I know I have a clear conscious ....how's my sister's????
All she lives with is her greed filled heart and I can't wait until she is called upon as Mom's executor and she has to hand over Mom's assets that she is waiting to get which totals just a lot of paperwork in which she has to go through me to get. Instead of doing the right thing my sister made sure my Mom (not in her right mind) made a will specifically excluding my brother and I as heirs. All she did was create a responsibility for herself to take care of debts that my Mother owes which is nothing but what's left over from funeral and life insurance and the small amount if any in her personal needs account. I don't want Mom to go but when she does....... Sister's going to hear "YOU SHOULD BE THANKING ME!!!!"
"I CAN'T HELP YOU!!!" "YOU WANTED THIS!!!" All this time I never got mad, but you can bet this will make it even!!! You should never worry about not getting what you think you deserve and start worrying about deserving what you get!!!!
We tried to get our mother to sell her house and move closer to the rest of the family but she refused. And when we did get her to change the financial POA, our sister just had her change it back.
Good luck with your situation. We had no luck with ours.