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Dad has fecal incontinence but refuses to shower, will sit in dirty clothes for a week. Have tried cajoling, reasoning, begging, pleading to no avail. Help!!
vetted1122, your profile states that you and your brother are helping your parents to live at home. Your father is 89 years old.
What is their living situation? What is your mother's health? How often do you and your brother go over there (and what is "there" - house, apartment?) to help?
Put to the side of him, Oxy Clean, Spray n Wash, and Tide for his clothes.
Give him adult diapers Depends or Abri Forms.
Give him a few packages of baby wipes.
Give him a laundry bag and basket.
He is embarrassed to ask his kids for help. Tell him if he doesn't, ZIPPYZEE may have the correct resources and call Adult Protection Agency. If he cannot help himself or ask for help, then he may not have a choice.
Get him to a doctor. He may have UTI, AND/OR BEDSORES BY NOW. It doesn't take long for those things to fester into something bad.. And it takes a heck of lot longer to heal them. THIS IS SOME SERIOUS SH.T And if you are thinking you may be smelling something.. it could be a pressure sore = bedsore. When they get to STAGE 4...THEY SMELL SOMETHING AWEFUL. trust me on that one..
Talk to his doctor and have him evaluated for Palliative care and or hospice. HE CAN OCCUR PRESSURE SORES.. WHICH CAN LEAD TO THINGS WORSE THAN EMBARRASSMENT.
Calmospetin, A & D OINTMENT. BABY WIPES. Don't know how old he is, but he does not want to bring awareness to these embarrassing issues.
Has he had his colonoscopy in the last 6 years? Or anything? So, he cannot make to the the restroom on time.. I get it. Your dad is old enough to have these issues, yet young enough to be shy about it...
Get his clean clothes ready...Run a tub, or shower..Does he have shower or grab bars installed in his bathroom? Does he have a shower chair, where he can sit, and spray in his netherregions.. to get himself clean. Do you have a caretaker? Does he trust anyone?
He is 89... gosh... he should be living with someone... you, brother? caretaker? self conscience... he needs a caretaker to come in... call doctor to have him evaluated for palliative care or hospice.. Hospice is NOT A DEATH SENTENCE. They evaluate, and re-evaluate. and decide.. POOP incontinence... why... you should ask doctor why...
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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What is their living situation? What is your mother's health? How often do you and your brother go over there (and what is "there" - house, apartment?) to help?
Put to the side of him, Oxy Clean, Spray n Wash, and Tide for his clothes.
Give him adult diapers Depends or Abri Forms.
Give him a few packages of baby wipes.
Give him a laundry bag and basket.
He is embarrassed to ask his kids for help. Tell him if he doesn't, ZIPPYZEE may have the correct resources and call Adult Protection Agency. If he cannot help himself or ask for help, then he may not have a choice.
Get him to a doctor. He may have UTI, AND/OR BEDSORES BY NOW.
It doesn't take long for those things to fester into something bad.. And it takes a heck of lot longer to heal them. THIS IS SOME SERIOUS SH.T
And if you are thinking you may be smelling something.. it could be a pressure sore = bedsore. When they get to STAGE 4...THEY SMELL SOMETHING AWEFUL. trust me on that one..
Nothing to be sitting around on. Get him in.
Calmospetin, A & D OINTMENT. BABY WIPES. Don't know how old he is, but he does not want to bring awareness to these embarrassing issues.
Has he had his colonoscopy in the last 6 years? Or anything?
So, he cannot make to the the restroom on time.. I get it. Your dad is old enough to have these issues, yet young enough to be shy about it...
Get his clean clothes ready...Run a tub, or shower..Does he have shower or grab bars installed in his bathroom? Does he have a shower chair, where he can sit, and spray in his netherregions.. to get himself clean. Do you have a caretaker? Does he trust anyone?
He is 89... gosh... he should be living with someone... you, brother? caretaker? self conscience... he needs a caretaker to come in... call doctor to have him evaluated for palliative care or hospice.. Hospice is NOT A DEATH SENTENCE. They evaluate, and re-evaluate. and decide..
POOP incontinence... why... you should ask doctor why...