My mom (90) lives alone so my siblings and I take turns visiting but she still spends long stretches of time living alone. Recently she has become very angry with my oldest sister (who has done the most to take care of mom), accusing her of stealing her stuff and getting her cell phone service she never wanted. (She previously agreed to the phone). It seems the basic problem is forgetfulness but this woman who has been kind and giving all her life is now growing suspicious of her own kids. She suspects us of trying to get her to move out of her house. Yesterday she suggested a PERS (personal emergency response system) which is a great idea for her but today she forgot that she thought is was a good idea and may end up resenting me if I get her one. Can anyone suggest any reading about strategies for communicating with them and putting their minds at ease?
Thanks.
Just want to add that on the flip side of being an only child, having multiple siblings does not guarantee that they would help. It usually comes down to one person and everyone else finds reasons to justify their absence. I speak from experience. Although I have 2 sisters, with loads of nieces and nephews, I spent most of my time advocating alone -- a solo act. They had a million reasons why they couldn't do more. I am still trying to move beyond my anger. I wish you strength and peace. PLEASE don't forget to take care of yourself.
Dehyrdation had been mentioned. Also ask your doctor to check sodium levels. Low sodium levels cause mental confusion and a myriad of other problems.
And make your doctors work together. IF you can get your main doctor to do the referrals that is great. But if not, ask your other doctors to write to your main doctor so he knows all medications and issues. This is really important.