early on in this battle I had learned somewhere's their is no way to actually diagnose dementia....that the person can only be officially diagnosed at Autopsy. So we put her on the Namenda and Aricept and just take care of her. Well her i am 9 ys later (long story) making my first neurologist apt ( related to a different ailment) and he sez..rudely.....why you here now, cant do much for her now, it has to be dealt with early on. when i explained myself, he then became helpful and i learned he can diagnose and determine what type of dementia she has. So now i am confused and upset.... could she have gotten better care initially...these jackass dr's piss me off...i digress.... i have reasoned that what would i have gained not much but comfort of official diagnosis...and maybe more time with her but actually why even prolong this suffering...so i am good with that part of it but....
what is the real story...and why these dr's are so ignorant!
Whatever the cause of your mother's meanness, Medication might help. I'm talking about antidepressants or antipsychotics. The two people closest to me with dementia both had lifelong "difficult" personalities. They were put on medication in the NH and became a pleasure to be around! How you get her to take it is another matter, but a cooperative doctor might say it's for pain, or it's to improve brain function. With my own father, I learned that actual pain pills improved his mood tremendously. If your body hurts all the time, even a little, it's harder to be nice.
Symptoms of dementia -- which we all associate strongly with Alzheimer's, Lewy's Body, FTD, and other such fundamentally INCURABLE and progressive diseases of the brain -- can also result from other, INITIALLY TREATABLE causes. These include vascular problems, mini-strokes, systemic infections, and even vitamin deficiencies. We're all so understandably afraid of Alzheimer's that when we see signs of confusion and memory loss in an elderly person, it's right where our frightened minds take us as the likely culprit. But it is extremely important to rule out these possible causes of a person's apparent confusion early on, or to determine that they exist and treat them ... because, for example, if a person is experiencing brain damage due to insufficient blood supply because of vascular issues, and you successfully treat the vascular issues, you will stop the progression of brain damage. If a person is experiencing confusion because of a physiological process relating to an infection or a vitamin insufficiency, and you correct these problems, you may see reversal (or at least an end to forward progress) of the dementia symptoms.
As I understand it, left untreated, physiological causes of dementia like this can do as much and as permanent damage as one of the "big" brain dementias that we all know and fear. (And yes, those can only be conclusively diagnosed at autopsy, but until then, doctors can sort of pinpoint them through cognitive testing/analysis to see patterns of impairment and brain scans that will show gradual atrophy of particular parts of the brain.)
So the neurologist in this event may have been (insensitively!) complaining that a physical workup (or, at least, in his/her opinion, a sufficiently extensive workup) wasn't done to rule out a physical cause of the dementia in the early stages, when treating such a cause (if it existed) might have contained or reversed the problem.
This being said, I'm guessing your (Mom?) MUST have had at least some kind of physical exam from at least her primary care provider, because you can't just buy Namenda and Aricept without a prescription. So I wouldn't beat yourself up too much about this. It seems unlikely that any doctor would have prescribed Alzheimer's drugs for short-term memory loss or other signs of dementia without first attempting to rule out the "easy to fix" stuff (even if he/she never explained that's why they were taking blood or urine or whatever).
My Dad LIKELY has FTD, based on the results of four hours of cognitive testing by a neuropsychologist and her analysis of the adults. His neuropsychologist said the patterns of impairment revealed by the testing are more indicative of a frontal dementia than Alzheimers ... however, she told me that it is not unusual where brain disease is occurring for multiple disease processes to be occurring at the same time ... so a patient could have primarily FTD, but also develop Alzheimer's. We could have gone farther and done a scan of the brain to confirm whether the atrophying was happening primarily in a frontal-temporal location, but I elected not to do this, as Dad is so stressed by doctor's visits, and I didn't see what this confirmation would do for us anyway, as there is no cure. The neuropsychologist agreed in our case, as Dad had had a recent physical relating to the memory and other executive impairments I'd noticed ... and also because she said the pattern of impairment revealed by the testing was very unlike typical impairment seen as a result of mini-strokes.
I've come to believe that a family care doc is reluctant to diagnose dementia, because of the amount of trouble and potential lawsuits that can come from it.
Especially in the early stages, can you imagine telling someone your mom that she has dementia? And I certainly didn't go to the doctor with my mom until she was reasonably far gone. Dad, who has passed away, didn't either. That was a generational thing, I suppose.
I suspect the best & brightest docs don't study geriatrics - you never see success. That being said, the geriatricians must get into it from a place of incredible compassion, because the pay ain't great, you're probably dealing with medicare , which must be a hassle, and the patient always dies. That being said, I've never seen a geriatrician in action. However, I've met enough MDs to know that you're extremely lucky if you have a good one, and you're doing quite well if you have a competent one. Really, you have to take notes every time you go to a doctor, don't trust them to know about allergies and previous surgery, and assume that the doctor has forgotten as much as your demented parent has!
You have to control the horizontal and the vertical - even the most caring medical professional doesn't know as much as you do about the situation, and they can exhibit stunningly bad judgement. Hang in there.
I would also like to say that taking care of oneself throughout one's life is no absolute preventative for Alzheimer's. My grandmother passed away from the disease, and she took wonderful care of herself (and me!) as far as proper nutrition, exercise, and certainly exercise of her brain. She was a wonderful painter, a political activist who walked the walk (dangerous in her "day"), and a great reader and thinker, right up until the bitter end. I love the way the medical industry tries to either: a. make us feel our medical problems are all under our control (i.e.: OUR FAULT), or b. make us feel that any disorder they don't understand or can't prove is in our minds (i.e.: OUR FAULT). Hopefully, they will progress past this someday, and stop being so fearful themselves, so they can help the public better.
From the Mayo Clinic:
"Doctors can nearly always determine whether you have dementia, and they can often identify whether your dementia is due to Alzheimer's disease. Alzheimer's disease can be diagnosed with complete accuracy only after death, when microscopic examination of the brain reveals the characteristic plaques and tangles."
A DEFINITIVE diagnosis is only possible with autopsy but there are various ways they narrow it down and decide what kind of dementia a person might have.
In nursing school, what I was told was that the findings at autopsy of an Alzheimer's patient was that their brain was like 'cobwebs' which is what they seem to be referring to as "characteristic plaques and tangles."
I hear ya! I also wonder about getting a more specific diagnosis beyond "mild cognitive impairment, beginning of dementia" at this point for my loved one. We just lost another family member with Alz/Lewy Body, but it was 10 years before the more specific diagnosis and only 3 years before he died. The behaviors and reactions to drugs is what drove us to figure out what else was going on with him. I've read up on several tests (MRI, CT, PET scan) and am wondering if we need to persue these tests to get a more definitive diagnosis here at the beginning of the diagnosis? Maybe finding out more specifics will help with treatment, therapy and what the future holds for all of us!
The true etiology of her condition remained unknown. The standardized tests to which BAlexander9 alluded showed clearly that Mom had a form of dementia; it was not Alzheimer's because symptoms specific to that disease were absent. At least they were able to get a clear enough picture to help Mom - and that her mental illness occurred in this century as opposed to the distant past. Others are/were not so fortunate.
I'm sorry that you lost her so soon after her move to the NH. But don't beat yourself up over it. Dementia of that kind is the worst and its the hardest thing to witness your parent to live with. Your mom was blessed to have you take care of her as long as you did. Thank you for sharing your story. Because there is a lot of caregivers out there that will learn from your experiences. Keep coming back and responding and venting. We are all here to support one another. My mom lost her battle with LBD in January of this year. She changed so much and in the end didn't know her own kids. It was the craziest journey of my life...and these caring souls saved me, encouraged me and ((Hugged)) me. God Bless
I am like you, very pissed. I had my mother to the doctors several times a year and she was in the hospital several times a year. If one professional doctor had even hinted to me that she had dementia, I never would have taken her actions personally as "meanness" or interpreted her forgetfulness as lies. It deprived me and my mother of what could have been a much closer bond during a time that she was in my home. Unfortunately, it was too late and she did go into the nursing home and died 3 days later. Think I don't have guilt over things I could have said or done differently? Please everyone if you are reading this, press her doctors for more of an understanding of what your parents have and what some of their actions really mean medically. It will save you some heartbreak.
I wish you well in this journey and hope you continue to be proactive and find the information you are seeking.