In public my Mother is so nice. She becomes the person I know. As soon as we get back into the car or back at home, she reverts right back into her meaness, complaining about everything, worried about her candy being stolen , hating my step son, my partner etc. Is this normal for a person with Dimentia? Do they have the presence of mind to know they should behave in public?
My husband sees a dementia specialist. Obviously everyone in that clinic knows what is going on. I fill out a survey of Hubby's behaviors and abilities before each visit with this doctor. Hubby's PCP is a wonder geriatrician who treats my mother as well. I attend all appointments with both my mother and my husband and the doctor always catches my eye or asks me directly if I see things the same way they do. And, bless her, she manages to do that without making it sound like she doesn't believe them.
You are trying your utmost to do what is best for your dad. You don't need a doctor who is working against you!
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I would try and get her into see a new doctor. That is crap that the Dr will not help. Has the Dr even sent her for testing? Sent het to Psyciatric? Set her up for teh memory Clinic? There are steps the Dr should be doing without difficult.
As for the person with AD from what I understood they can only be on their best behavior for a limited time for it tends to wear them out n that may be why the person goes back sometimes to the naughty side. The person really don't know they r really behaving that way for part of the brain is not working.
I suggest to go to www.alz.org and educated, educate and educate for that is what I have been doing as well in order to undestand. You may also be able to get the book called, "The 36-Hour Day" by Peter Rabin for free if they have any extra ones at your local alzheimer's association. I hope this help for ya'll I am learning as well.
This is a very tough disease to manage. Take care of yourselves.
emmy
Don't let your loved one with dementia be "thrown away" by a medical practioner who doesn't want to be bothered with the challenge!
She has a narcissistic personality so it's hard for me to say I miss her sweet side or be able to say it's just not like her. It's gotten worse since my dear step father passed away so she gas no one else to dump all her mean, negative comments onto. Her reasoning is definitely no good so I'm making sure I have Power of Attorney and Health care POA in order to use if and when needed.
She also talks nonstop so my brothers and I are learning to call her when we know we will need to go in 20 mins. I know that's why old friends don't call her as much or ask her to join them for meals. It's really sad, but she's her own worse enemy. It's a relief knowing someone understands how painful and difficult this is, but sad that there are so many others like you going through it.