My 86 year old mother was diagnosed with AD in February this year. It was very quick as she was still driving and independent before the holidays. She has progressed very quickly and is now wheelchair bound and needs 24 care. She is in rehab now due to an infection...but doesn't have much time left there due to Insurance. I have to bring her home because of the spend down issue. I am helpless, hopeless and sad. I have siblings who are supportive as we are in the same boat and only care about doing what is right for her. Her case is unusual as it has taken over very fast...but is definitely AD. Has had MRI and neurologist and geri-psych evals...etc. Her anxiety is out of control, and there is no comforting her. Have tried many different medications and nothing has touched the anxiety. Please help with suggestions....I am sick just thinking about what today will bring.
I imagine your heart is broken to see her go downhill so fast. Money troubles on top of sadness. That's a lot to handle.
I only did this for a short time, but what killed me was when my father started waking up every hour all night long. Every two hours I could handle!!!
$11,000 a month? Wow! I also live in MA, and you're scaring me!
24 hr. care? That's a lot for you to take on...Just remember her assets are meant to take care of her in exactly this situation...If you need to spend down sell her home or etc... that's what she has been saving for...
Please don't give up your life for the inheritance ....I know you said your siblings are supportive but 1 of you will be taking her to "their" home, and that's a lot to ask of someone...