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veraj2015, sounds like you are second guessing yourself.
According to your profile, your Dad has Alzheimer's/Dementia and he's only been in the nursing home for one week. You need to give it time, like 3 or 4 months for Dad to adjust to this new place, new people, new sounds, new food, etc.
Having someone living with you with with such serious memory issues can be very exhausting from what I have read. And note that 40% of caregivers die while caring for their loved one.... you don't want that to happen to yourself.
Now you can visit your Dad as his "daughter" instead of his exhausted "caregiver". Even if Dad didn't live with you, you still were on pins and needles about him being at home.
I think the questions you have to ask have to do with why YOU'RE not happy. That's all you have control over.
Is he getting the right care? The correct meds? Being seen by correct doctor/nurse practitioners for various problems, i.e., psych, wound care, dentist, pain management, audiology?
Are you being kept in the loop by those treating him, or by social worker (this was our biggest problem initially).
Is he getting to activities?
Sometimes when one has been doing caregiving at home, nh routines are different and are initially perceived as "wrong". Mom liked to nap in her chair after lunch. The nurses insisted she get into bed, which mom hated. They explained they were doing this to relieve pressure on her tailbone, where there was persistent redness, indicating a potential bedsore.
Assuming he is getting proper care stick it out. It can take some time for him to adjust. You may even want to pull back a little, not visit so much and let him get used to the new people around him.
You have to take a hard and honest look at the situation. You also need to consider not only what is best for him but what is best for you. If it means sacrificing you life to care for him for years to come a care facility is the right choice.
I guess you need to look down the road and see what's in store for your dad if you didn't move him. If you're absolutely sure that a NURSING HOME and not asst. living or adult foster care was the way it had to be, then look at it like a parent does with their child. The kid is kicking and screaming about going to the doctor for a shot, but you KNOW you're doing what has to be done for their welfare. Like I said ....big picture. It stinks I know.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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According to your profile, your Dad has Alzheimer's/Dementia and he's only been in the nursing home for one week. You need to give it time, like 3 or 4 months for Dad to adjust to this new place, new people, new sounds, new food, etc.
Having someone living with you with with such serious memory issues can be very exhausting from what I have read. And note that 40% of caregivers die while caring for their loved one.... you don't want that to happen to yourself.
Now you can visit your Dad as his "daughter" instead of his exhausted "caregiver". Even if Dad didn't live with you, you still were on pins and needles about him being at home.
Is he getting the right care? The correct meds? Being seen by correct doctor/nurse practitioners for various problems, i.e., psych, wound care, dentist, pain management, audiology?
Are you being kept in the loop by those treating him, or by social worker (this was our biggest problem initially).
Is he getting to activities?
Sometimes when one has been doing caregiving at home, nh routines are different and are initially perceived as "wrong". Mom liked to nap in her chair after lunch. The nurses insisted she get into bed, which mom hated. They explained they were doing this to relieve pressure on her tailbone, where there was persistent redness, indicating a potential bedsore.
You have to take a hard and honest look at the situation. You also need to consider not only what is best for him but what is best for you. If it means sacrificing you life to care for him for years to come a care facility is the right choice.