I have read so many entries suggesting that if you are having difficulties with caring for an elderly parent that it's time to consider a nursing home or assisted living. Sounds so easy but even on the power of attorney form it says it is only valid if 2 doctors declare her unable to make health care decisions. And as long as my mother can speak for herself and says she doesn't want to go to a nursing home then she doesn't have to. They will not admit someone against their will. So that leaves me stuck taking care of her. I love her but it's so demanding. She is 84 has fallen 3 times in last 6 months doesn't cook or clean. I can't just abandon her and let her die or fall. Why can't we just tell the nursing home that we can't do it anymore?