help me advice please mom in hospital took her off of her meds she has been on put her on zyprexa do not wANT HER ON THIS SHE IS MORE confused then ever I want to bring home continue her meds was on what can I do want to send her to pysch hospital to experiment I feel no she has dementia
I admire and respect the profession and have met countless professionals who are at the top of their game. Unfortunately, I've seen and coped with several who were either behind the times or had such a terrific opinion of themselves that there was no communicating with them.
Seeking a second opinion is sometimes necessary. Good luck with your situation.
Carol
Not everybody is blessed with the literacy and/or typing skills to produce elegant text, particularly under emotional pressure. Bear with them or not, as you please, but please don't criticise the grammar and punctuation of people when they are asking for help. It is unkind and unnecessary.
The hospital medics ought not to be dismissing your concerns, and they owe you a clear explanation of what they're trying to achieve for your mother. But at such a stressful time it is SOOOO difficult to insist on these things and keep your cool. If you don't like the GP idea, do you have a neighbour, friend or relative who could accompany you for moral support or assist you with advocacy for your mother? Or is there a liaison office at the hospital that supports patients' and relatives' advocacy?
Get back-up, in short. Best of luck, I feel for you.
I get very frustrated that medical folks often dismiss the caregiver and our knowledge about our loved one. We spend 24/7 and know what makes them sad/happy/angry/dizzy/etc or have experienced all those things with them. I am not just a family member. I know this person...not I just spent 5 minutes reading the summary and can make these decisions based on that and because I am the DR. If there was not a big problem, we still would have been at home!
DO realize that most people do not get most side effects, or nothing would be left on the market :-) and keep a running list of definite side effects, especially if you can confirm them and they are to things that are most commonly used.
I think the reason you got questioned at first is that something happened that could have made someone ask if the previous meds were actually not working. I think all of us have had cases where the person thinks they are having a side effect but it is really the condition changing. I have people who come back after a surgery that was hopefully going to help their child walk - they may say something like 2 years ago my child was walking and now after the operation they can't anymore! But, what they are not remembering is that they had stopped walking and that is why they decided to have the surgery...it just did not turn out as well as hoped.
2. Why is she in the hospital?
3. What were her symptoms?
4. Why did the doctors feel the need for Zyprexa (generic form is Olanzapine)
Then we can go on from there.
If you feel the Drs. aren't taking the time to explain, then definitely go with your feeling and take her back home and put her back on her original meds.Unless she has an additional medical problem, then make sure they tell you clearly why the meds have changed.
Stand up for your Mother, make sure the Drs. give you a straight answer.
You are in charge, not the Drs., who sometimes treat the elderly in a manner they would never treat someone younger.
When your Mother can't speak up for herself, you must do it for her.
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