My Mother has not been diagnosed but as I've researched she has dementia. My mother has always been a narcissist. My sister recently died and she didn't even go to the funeral, she had a luncheon to go too. She is mean, steals my clothing, go through my purse and my bedroom. She even let's my dogs out and they run away; luckily I've found them. Life with her has always been miserable and she won't let me take her to the doctor's to get evaluated. My brother lives 30 minutes away and will not help. I need to get out of this situation. SELF-CARE is what I'm told. No one wants to help and she spends her money on make-up instead of food. I'm not working but I buy her food. It's total craziness and I'm exhausted. I truly hate what is happening to my life and I feel like a prisoner. I'm not a victim but I don't know how to get help.
If she has money, why do you buy her food?
"Life with her has always been miserable" -- so tell us how you came to be taking care of her.