I am the caregiver for both my parents. My Dad is 94. Barely able to walk, incontinent, unable to cook for himself or care for himself. Mom was his caregiver for years, but she has had a stroke. I left my job/apartment in N. Carolina to come to Colorado to be the caregiver for Mom. I only learned just how bad it is with Dad after getting here. So..my problems now is that the doctors have such a "don't care, they are too old to bother with any way" attitude. I looked at trying to get new primary care for them..but..no one is accepting new Medicare patients. For example, Mom has new heart condition, and it seems like she is exhibiting new serious problems almost weekly. Now she isn't sleeping through the night besides. She is up 6 to 8 times a night. No one is sleeping because of this. She is a fall risk, so I have to get up with her. The noise she makes wakes everyone. The doctors just "poo poo" this off. She cannot stay awake during the day. She falls asleep during meals, during therapy sessions, etc. I am walking around half dead most days now too. dad is cranky by nature anyway...now he is impossible to be around. What do I do? How do I get a doctor to deal with this..now. Not next month, not in a few weeks if she doesn't improve. This is critical now. I need sleep badly!
Even my Dad went out for a walk. I think Mom going motivated him. He is much, much slower....we didn't get past the end of the driveway...but it is more than he has done in months!
Everyone ate well. everyone slept well. Dad didn't even complain about the oxygen.
Having doctors that listen and help makes all the difference.
God bless you for all you are doing for the care of your parents.
p.s. what a cool job with horses! they are amazing animals.