I clean daily Mon-fri. Used to wash dishes but he bought his wife a dishwasher. She is supposed to load daily and unload once it's done. That is a battle. Her husband is an amputee and has incontinance issues. She is supposed to wipe him down because he is unable to get in shower from wheelchair due to difficult wound on nub. Which I have to remind her to do daily. I help go grocery shopping. Wash the car. I do 2 supercleans a month all I ask is that she takes care of her husband and cleans up after herself. Its a constant battle and I'm getting so frustrated. They always want me to hangout and chat when I'm done I'm just so aggravated that I'm ready to go home. They are both mentally capable of understanding and want their freedom but I feel as if I'm taking care of adult children. I'm at my wits end. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Please and Thank you
I wish I had known then why she was not taking care of things in her home. But, she wasn't very old and would have passed a mini evaluation in a doctor's office. But, it was the early stages. Still, it was preventing her from doing things for herself and for her home. I thought she understood what we discussed in conversations. She would say she did, nod, promise, etc., but ,she was not able to follow through.
I'm not sure that is the case with your friend, but, I would consider it. The thing is that reminding someone who has that condition to do something, doesn't help. Because, they can forget about it from the time they hang up the phone, until they walk into another room. Plus, they may actually believe that they did it, when in reality they haven't. I'd look into this and see if there are any other symptoms of what might be going on. I know how frustrating it is. I'd just keep in mind that there may be a medical explanation and that's it's not her fault.
Strokes can cause this type of Vascular Dementia. If she sees her doctor, is there someone who can report what you are seeing in her?