She's already had one accident (first time driving again). I have been actively trying to stop Mom from driving. Her doctor keeps telling me that there is nothing that can be done because of her mental status and has written a note in her chart that she is ok to drive. I just saw a post out here about Confabrication. Mom exhibits this to a T. The first time driving she backed into her friend's car and drove off. No clue what she did. They filed a police report. Last night my husband discovered a new red line of damage on her van. When asked, she denied knowing how it came to be there. I would love to hear what others have done in similar circumstances and any support you have found! I've had to stop talking to Mom about things other than trivial due to the stress it causes me. I want her to be safe, but that seems to fall on deaf ears.
Keep trying to stop her. If you're up to the current news, there was an elderly man who drove against traffic with police in hot pursuit. They did the pit maneuver and even shot at him. Afterwards, in every news channel, they said he had dementia. Everyone asked, "Why didn't the family stop him from driving?" "Just go to the doctor or to DMV" And one viewer tweated, "it's not that easy."
In your profile it said your mom has lung disease but it didn't say how old she was. Does the lung disease prevent her from driving safely or is it her age?