I know that this question is a bit broad, so forgive me. I feel Mark has been showing some signs of dementia. For example, there was $585 taken from an ATM with his debit card. He has a debit card that is separate from my account for his SSI. Anyway, this money was taken from an ATM. I do not drive and his nephew was not present to take out this money. I asked him about this, he does not remember it happening nor was he even aware his debit card was missing! If it was a a tiny amount I would shrug it off, but this $500 (it could have paid some bills).
He keeps forgetting passwords and will order new cards for those accounts. He has chunks of time he can't even recall that I visited and has started to forget the names of some of the dogs we had for years. He has gotten a lot more demanding. Some times he is there, but a lot of the time it is like he's not. He even forgot the name of the place where I have been working for a year prior to this. he has trouble working the phone these days.
I am not sure if the hospital has conducted memory tests on him lately. I know when he was in rehab (over a year ago) they did. I did not doubt his memory at the time as it was fine, but now I am beginning to wonder if he is having early warning signs of this happening.
Or, contact that bank and give them a heads-up about his situation and that you suspect unathorized withdrawals.
I feel like with everything that has happened to mark, that it wouldnt be a surprise if he is having some mental decline. Hopefully it doesn't get worse.
Good luck from the bottom of my heart
Patients in ICU have amnesia, almost always, and cannot retain anything they are told while hospitalized this ill.
Mark should not be in charge of his finances or his cards right now. I think you must know that.
As his wife, are you also his POA, because right now he has not the ability to have executive function good enough to handle finances I would think.
All of this acute illness and hospitalization is now ongoing for months. If he also dabbling with charge and credit and debit cards that's frankly a scary thought.