Elder protective services made 2 unannounced visits to my moms. I haven't received any information from them at this point, but my other sibling who was visiting mom last week said my sister, the POA, is hustling to get another lawyer to change mom's irrevocable trust and remove the family home that is in there and add that to her will with different beneficiaries before the court appointment. So far she has told this new lawyer that she does not have a copy of the trust so he just said he would do another one with mom's wishes. Meanwhile mom can't remember if she even ate or not.
Elder services takes a while with reporting, but my sister is moving at a rapid pace to change everything. Anyone know if I should contact the new lawyer and tell him that the trust is irrevocable and i have a copy and send it to him? to stop this from happening or stay out of it??
WORST: throughout all of this she is telling elderly dementia mom who is struggling with covid cough currently if something had happened to her this whole time things wouldn't be divided the way she wants it now and they need to get that changed.
Go for it. Give them all and any info you can.
I'm starting to document things cuz my mom's POA is doing nothing and I'm doing all the work. I'm not going to hold back on anything if the "stuff hits the fan"
When I take my 105-yr old Aunt to see her elder law attorney, she is *always* taken aside and privately interviewed to determine whether she has capacity and is not being coerced by me or anyone.
I would ask your own attorney whether this is possible (and it may depend on what state or states this is taking place in). Are you a trustee?
I don’t have an attorney at this point just letting elder protective services handle it all
my sister was dating this lawyer so I guess she has him thinking she’s trustworthy
Personally, I would not set by and let my sibling endanger my mom because of greed. This is the type of behavior that causes the courts to deny access to the senior. Do you really want that for mom?
See something, say something! It's a good rule to live by.