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My mom have been accusing her kids my dad and go as far as to even say there is someone coming in her house taking her things. Which she loves and hide her things thinking someone is stealing them.
The accusations aren't about you. They are about Mom's insecurities. Be on her side. This is extremely common. The paranoid accusatory stage only lasted a few months for my husband (it seemed like years while it was happening.) We can hope that your mom comes to feel more safe and trusting in your care, and soon!
I think that will stop only in later stages. It is a real common problem.
"I don't have a memory problem. I would remember something like that!"
She can't find her things. Her memory is going, so she can't remember where she put them. Her visual processing is going, too, so she doesn't notice things that are right in front of her. It isn't her doing, because she would remember where she put the things, right? Her ego, or self-respect, doesn't see her failures, so the only logical explanation is that someone moved or even stole her things. It's super annoying and hurtful to be accused, but remember, she's a wounded animal striking out. It's the pain and fear talking.
She won't stop accusing, but you can improve the situation by taking her side. "Oh no, Mom! What did they take this time? Isn't it annoying? No one should mess with your stuff." "No, I didn't take it, but I'd be glad to see if I can find it. Maybe it fell on the floor."
The more you can agree with her, or not contradict, the easier your life will be. If you can be her friend, not her teacher or critic, the more she will remember to trust you. The accusations won't go away, but they can get milder if she knows you will protect her pride and keep her safe.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
The accusations aren't about you. They are about Mom's insecurities. Be on her side. This is extremely common. The paranoid accusatory stage only lasted a few months for my husband (it seemed like years while it was happening.) We can hope that your mom comes to feel more safe and trusting in your care, and soon!
"I don't have a memory problem. I would remember something like that!"
She can't find her things. Her memory is going, so she can't remember where she put them. Her visual processing is going, too, so she doesn't notice things that are right in front of her. It isn't her doing, because she would remember where she put the things, right? Her ego, or self-respect, doesn't see her failures, so the only logical explanation is that someone moved or even stole her things. It's super annoying and hurtful to be accused, but remember, she's a wounded animal striking out. It's the pain and fear talking.
She won't stop accusing, but you can improve the situation by taking her side. "Oh no, Mom! What did they take this time? Isn't it annoying? No one should mess with your stuff." "No, I didn't take it, but I'd be glad to see if I can find it. Maybe it fell on the floor."
The more you can agree with her, or not contradict, the easier your life will be. If you can be her friend, not her teacher or critic, the more she will remember to trust you. The accusations won't go away, but they can get milder if she knows you will protect her pride and keep her safe.
This is such a difficult job, isn't it?