As I mentioned about my mother that had taken a bad fall and the trip to the ER, Things took a turn for the worse the next day. Her breathing was not good, she was very short of breath and her pain was unbearable... So, I had to call for ambulance to transport her back to the hospital. With her conditions, she was admitted for four days. We are back home now. Things are much worse with caring for her. She has slipped away dramatically! My own health has become much worse... I was on my way home from after being with her in the hospital, being very exhausted, I blacked out under the wheel and went into a seizure like state, with uncontrolable shaking and then passed out. My car landed up against the guardrail from the side of the road... paramedics had arrived, and I was taken to the ER... being exhausted and stressed to the max had taken its toll on me! I feel I can't go on another day! I'm so scared and worried about my mother and with my own health issues it isn't safe for neither of us at this point. I now have decided to look into nursing home facilities for her safety and care, and the guilt is already starting to set in before I even get started, but I know this is the best thing i can do for her now.
How can sacrificing one's entire life to the point of ruin be honoring another?
Well said, and I hope a lot of caregivers get the message:) xo
You know, I am reminded of a sermon I heard once where the pastor was talking about the commandment to "honor thy father and mother." She told us to remember that HONORING our parents does NOT mean sacrificing ourselves for our parents. It means that we have a responsibility to make sure they are OK. To make sure they are getting the care they need. It does NOT mean that WE have to be the ones providing that care, especially at the cost of our own health and well-being.
There is no law that says you have to care for a close family member and you notice I don't say "loved one" for a loved one you will make any sacrifice and do it with joy in your heart. The question to ask is this love or obligation?
I continued to take care of my mom when I was physically and mentally unable too and paid for it dearly. If the hospital and then nursing home is applicable I would do it.
24 hour a day care for some parents is more than most can handle if they still are married with family.
My caregiving didn't end until my dad died 6 weeks ago. He was in the NH for 7 months but I was always his caregiver.
my HEART. lol..
ok, a sign from god. many years ago in a southern state there were biblical effin floods. a local minister was watching the flood conditions from his home. as the water reached his first floor windows a motorboat tried to rescue him. oh no, sez the minister, god will take care of us. on the second day of flooding the minister and his family were on the second floor of the home watching houses floating by when a second motorboat tried to rescue them. NEVER, exclaimed the minister, god will see us thru. the third day the family is clinging to the chimneytop and again refused help from a rescue chopper. well the dumb m - f drowned and went to heaven and one day as hes walking the streets he meets jesus himself. seeming quite troubled the minister asked jesus why as a faithful servant on earth did jesus let him drown in the flood. jesus replied, " man i sent you two motorboats and a helicopter " . lol. next to the turrets pianist thats one of my favorite jokes.. he he