my aunt who worked very hard all her life saved and invested her earnings married later in life had a prenup between them. we have had to put her in a place where she has full time nurses on duty and such. all the years her husband said he never wanted aneything to do with her finaces etc. since being place in a better care home my sister who she has exz over estate will told her husband she was going to get conservatorship over her to handle bills and such for her whom i no she would want to have it. now husband has went and got a lawer and trying to get it himself . has aneyone been threw this before
In any case, Niece is going to have to get a lawyer if she is trying to obtain conservatorship. Husband has hired a lawyer. The lawyers will resolve it. Unfortunately the longer the process drags out, the more of Aunt's funds it will drain.
As a spouse, he should have some part in her care. If he doesn't, why not? Is he trustworthy? Many questions. If he isn't trust worthy, I know you feel obligated to protect your aunt. You just can't open her wallet to someone who may not have her best interest at heart.
Then there is the issue of him feeling left out. Maybe his feelings are hurt. I know, that is my situation with my Mother. I have always been honest but she doesn't trust my husband (for no good reason), so she keeps secrets from me. It has destroyed our relationship. So maybe he is hurting too and you just don'
t realize it. Maybe a good sit down and talk is in order.
Only you can know the answers to these questions. If this is a situation where you and your sibling(s) have counted on an inheritance from an aunt who married late in life, well, things change. But you know the husband and you know what his intentions could be. My brother in law married at 45, has a CPA firm, a beautiful home, plenty of money. At first there was talk his home would go to the nephews and nieces when he died. I thought, no, it should go to the loving woman who married this eccentric old guy. I hope she gets everything. BUT, if she were a conniving bitch, well..... you get my drift. Good luck to you on finding the right answers to this problem.
What part of that is too difficult to understand? It seems as if how your aunt's finances are being spent is the real concern. Having a prenup doesn't preclude her husband from taking care of and making decisions for his wife about her care and what is best for her. That's just being a loving and responsible husband.
And being executor of a will doesn't mean squat when the person whose will it is is still alive. There's no power in being an executor until she dies. It sounds to me as if there are some on the outside looking in who are just worried about what they'll inherit or not.