Father has been given 1- 1 & 1/2 years to live. I wonder if anyone can recommend books to help a family learn to communicate with the dying father. This man has been handicapped with severe osteoporosis for many years from walker to wheelchair to hospital bed now. He is totally alert and bright but collapsing internally from osteoporosis and aware his time is limited. Many many medicines have been used over the years and many different surgeries performed but now his many excellent doctors can do no more than make him comfortable. My question really is how does one talk with the dying? You can’t talk about dying all the time, or maybe even the future. What helps? Talking about TV shows, politics, the past?
Tall to him like you would talk to anyone else.
No one knows when their last day on earth will be.
You are talking to the living because we are all dying
So take your time to know your loved one and find out secrets and wishes never done. Find out things you have been scared to ask all your life and tell them some secrets can remain as such till they pass or even at all if you wish to hold on to them. I have all my mom's secrets I have told 2 people the ones she had held about them and I was not believed and I laughed telling them well mom said you would never in your life take the truth even if it was standing in front of them. She was more my sister then a mom and she was happy my dad married a good women who was more of a mom for me because my mom knew she was never supposed to be a parent she was to wild. I go so many I am sorry for how I raised you and how you have been treated your whole life. I did it because I see me when I look at you and I never wanted you to be like me. She passed away alone in Alaska one week after the divorce she had been trying to get for 3 years. she passed away with his last name and it will never be able to be changed like she wanted. I was the last to talk to her and I am the only one no one talks to in my family.
so help your loved one do what they want and find out as much as you can trust that you are one of us lucky ones who get this time.
DO NOT WASTE IT!!!