My mom is in an assistant living facility and also on hospice for a month. Now she wants myself or my sister to stay with her 24/7 she says she dying and she feels sick. The doctors and nurses say she fine nothing wrong . She has bad anxiety. Why do I feel so guilty and mad at her when I have to leave and she begging me to stay I'm trying to be patient but it hard . Is this normal for her to act that way and is it normal for me to feel guilty and stressed to the point I can't sleep she makes me feel so bad. I know its not fun for her either.
I'm so sorry. There is a lot on you right now. I know your mom is afraid and wants to have her daughters present 24/7 but that is not realistic either. I'm not sure if you can get other family members or friends or even hospice staff to sit with her when you are not there. Its important to find the right balance and give yourself a chance to rest. I know its hard. Trying every day to do what our parents want yet feeling very stressed as well. I hope you can talk more with hospice staff about different solutions and options that can help you find some peace.
I'm sorry. I didn't realize that your mother had recently passed away. I recall your previous post about her.
Do discuss this with Hospice. They can help lessen her anxiety.
I can imagine how hard this is on you! Please don't stop visiting, but try to help her feel more calm, so you can feel less upset, too.
She's on hospice. She may not be actively dying, but she must be scared and anxious. There are meds that can help with that.
Will she be comforted by visits from the hospice Chaplain? Look into that as well.