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First off you need a lawyer.
Depending on the state it could be a common law marriage.
You may have to agree to return or copy any documents that concern him because that would only be fair. So though the advice from the new woman sounds reasonable, I would not believe second hand knowledge.
Get a lawyer....
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I agree with the other who have posted. If you lived and cared for him for 11 years it might be considered a common law marriage. I would contact an attorney and adult protective services to do an investigation. it does appear that there is way more to this story.
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There appears to be a large swath of narrative missing from this story.
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Since they want every document pertaining to him, I would make all copies of what you have and keep it in a very safe place. Just in case, someone decides to accuse you of negligence. One doesn't know that when you give ALL documents to them, they can accuse you - and you have NO back up documents to prove that you did this or that.

Due to the HIPAA law, you can tell them that you just can't give these documents to just anyone. Insist that they present to you their POA document or any other document notarized that they are acting in behalf of him. I think the police and the medical community would understand why you don't want to release such sensitive documents to just to anyone.

IF the police will be there so that you can retrieve your belongings - remember this - they will ASK the homeowner if you can enter and retrieve your stuff. The homeowner can say No. If he does, then your only recourse is through the small claims court. By then, if I was a spiteful caregiver, I'd make sure your stuff gets 'lost.' At the small claims court, you will need to have proof that you own those things.
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Lostwill, please correct me if I am wrong, but this one situation does not sound like a reason to leave. Could it be that this was the straw that broke the camels back? Are you simply exhausted and worn out from taking care of him?
I am not asking these questions to upset you, I am asking because it seems your leaving has much more behind it than his not being honest about the hours the aide worked or charged for....
Please take some time to really get in touch with what is going on... if you want to stay gone, then do so , by all means.... I don't know the law on getting your things... I do know you can call for an assist with the police, for them to standby while you get the rest of your things.... don't know who this woman is that you spoke of, but don't allow yourself to be bullied.... call the police and find out what you can do....
I am sorry you took care of this man all this time and it has ended this way.. prayers for you to take care of yourself....
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The request to work with her to get your things back and to turn over documents seems very sensible. You probably won't need the documents in the future, since they are about him. If you want your property, it seems a good thing to do.

I'm surprised that it blew up like this. There must have been problems before this happened.
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sorry, missed a portion of it. My eyes. You left. HOORAY!!!
However, the rest I stand by: after 11 years, he is not a fiance. You are something else which I will not say here. You are trying to get back on track.
You are going to have to cut your losses in my opinion: being unmarried you will not have the same rights as if you had the marriage contract.
but kudos for leaving. You may very well try asking police for help but I am afraid you are on the losing end.
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Leave. Now.
Do you want to live the rest of your life this way? It will NOT change.
You are not married to him, and your status in the courts is not quite the same as if you were married.
You are trying to get into some sort of power struggle. I know you are invested emotionally, leaving will be a horrible wrench.
you have only a few choices: leave, stay and tolerate it, fight and it will escalate to where he may well boot you out or try and boot you out. It is obvious things will be fabricated and trumped up.
LEAVE.
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Is your fiance competent? Is this other woman you have to deal with his guardian? Did you receive legal notice of charges, claims or eviction? There are laws in each state regarding these matters. I would consult with an attorney to explore my rights and obligations.

Asking your finance the question about the hours in front of the care aid may have put him on the spot. People who are dependent on others have a difficult time when confronting the very people who they depend upon. I can see how he might have felt he had to say what he did, even if it wasn't the truth. Or perhaps there was a miscommunication. But, whatever it was, it looks like things are much different now. I would get legal advice to see what has transpired and how you could be legally evicted from a place you were staying without notice and proper service.

Is there a restraining order?

Is sounds like a very odd situation.
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