This past Sat my 90yr old mother moved into my house with me (I'm 55yr old her one and only daughter). Both her and I have been living alone independantly (her for 20yrs, me 37yrs). I have older half brother who keeps his distance both phyiscally and communicative. I have a middle brother who has been in & out of jail all his life who mooched off my father until he passed away and has sinced moved onto my mother. My mother's short term memory is failing fast so she can say she won't give my brother money but I find that she did. My brother lives between motels and Salvation Army. I work FT and am away all day, she's fine so far alone but I fear my brother visiting or leaving her alone with him. Meaning not monitoring the visit. Do I have any recourse of the situation? Other than putting my name on her account is there anything else I can do? Help I am alone in the situation.
I assume her SS check is already directly deposited into her checking account.
1. Cash 2. Checking 3. "Stuff".
If you don't leave her any cash, he can't get that.
If you take the check book with you, she won't be able to write checks.
I don't think there's much you can do about items, except putting her jewelry or other valuables in a locked fireproof box for which you keep the key, or putting them in a safety deposit box at your bank.
As to monitoring any visits, the best thing I can think of is closed circuit tv, but I wouldn't tell your mother or she may mention it to him.
The other thing you could do is far more drastic and that's to request a PPO (personal protection order) against him, barring him from calling or coming to your house. But that may cause more hard feelings than it's worth, and your mother may actually still want to see him.
You would have to provide information on situations in which he has mooched off of her, though; the order wouldn't likely be granted based on speculation.
Good luck. Sorry it has to come to this.