She is in assisted living and just discovered one son was ripping her off. He is causing her a lot of stress and she swears he is out to kill her because she already had one stroke. He has all the copies of her will and won''t give one to her plus she can't remember the lawyer's name and that son won't tell her the name. He is set to inherit everything if she dies right now and she wants to change that. Basically she just needs an inexpensive lawyer and to know her rights about the stuff he won't hand over. She is alert and in control of all her faculties. He just tricked her for a while but then she wised up. Also, the cost of assisted living is eating up her savings. I remember hearing that being the widow of a serviceman who served during WW2 qualified her for help paying for her care. Is there such a thing? You can contact me at home. Jan
I would suggest that you speak first with the social worker @ the ALF rather than the director of the facility. Social workers are a huge source of information and I've found that they can be quite candid in what they tell you as social workers are required to be on staff and so have pretty good job security (unlike the nursing staff which totally are under the DON - Director of Nursing).
Also please keep in mind, that mom may have dementia and what she thinks is happening (…"he is out to kill her"…) may not have any basis in reality.
You can also contact your local senior services center in moms area and they can give you a list.
This is your brother I'm assuming....Are you on speaking terms? Are moms accusations accurate? If she isn't in her right mind, has dementia, brother may contest any interference.
Make sure you have clear written documentation of the instances for moms claims as to why she wants to make the change. Will brother now be cut out of the will? Why would he inherent everything? Are you a sibling?
Vet benefits. Yes, they can provide financial assistance. The info is on the veterans affairs website. Assistance is based on need and current financial status but worth looking into for now or in the future.