My mother needs help from 8am to 8pm. He is still able to feed himself, shower and use bathroom with no help, and dress himself. He has been going to an independent memory care day care a few times a week. He uses a walker. My mom has no heath or memory issues but, she is 85 and tiring of being his caretaker 24/7. My mother is adamant that he have someone who is skilled in dementia care
I'm not sure how to find "independent" HHA's, but you can ask the doctor, and the local Area Council on Aging. Naturally, you will want to check references for anyone you hire, including a CORI check - criminal record. These people are not going to be PhD's, but some are very intelligent, have common sense and lots of experience. The right person will be a blessing to you all.