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Good for you! You do need to get help. I spent many years with growing children (one with severe heath challenges of his own) and multiple elders who needed my help. It's not only exhausting - it can be damaging to more than just ourselves. There comes a time when outside help is the only answer. We can still be very, very involved with everyone but it takes more than one person to provide care for multiple ill people and give growing children some quality time, as well. Good luck in finding quality help. Warm wishes, Carol
It is so overwhelming being a caregiver to my mom a stroke victim, dad who is overwhelmed because mom always did everything and now can not. I am a wife, mother to 3 boys, 15,12,8. I also work part time as a RN. Our family life has obviously changed, all involved try and help. But I am spread to thin, I thought I could do it all, care for all, After a year, I have stress headaches, not sleeping, my husband is tired, he works full time to come home and help with homework, run boys around to after school activities. My boys are starting to complain that I am not there... my family does not complain, we love our folks and grandparents . But we have lost our family. I have started to walk some mornings with friends. Mom sleeps till 10 and dad stays with mom. I worry about dad, he has no time for self and he has lost 30lbs. Dad has been resistant to getting help to come in, however, I will start looking at agencies during the holiday so I can get help after first of year
As others have said, we have to *make* time since we'll never *find* it. What I've told myself and believe to be true is that if I go down my loved ones will have lost me and that could be the end of them. That is unfair to everyone.
While I've never been great at finding (or making) "me time," I have made the effort. Without doing so I'd have completely burned out long ago. For me, the answer has been getting up at 4 a.m. so I can meditate. That may not be the answer for many people but it's helped me. Others may consider that self-punishment but my point is that we must try to find something that works for us.
Please keep telling us how you are doing. We know how your are feeling as much as anyone else can and you'll get a variety of views from the community.
At first I felt overwhelmed with caregiving for my Mom who is bedridden. I began to get up early to make some time for myself to read or write in a journal before the day begins. Making this time for myself early mornings has really helped.
Somehow, some way, find the time. Otherwise, you'll have a physical or mental breakdown, and then what will you do? As Jill1027 says, if you're looking for time, you may not find it, so you have to "make" time. I wish you well.
Hi Nitabu13, it's time to make "You" part of your daily routine. Just as important as your patient, we have to find time for ourselves. If you don't have anyone to assist you by taking your patient/loved one, then you need to adjust your already stretched schedule to devote 30 minutes each day to your mind/body/soul. It may sound ridiculous but the alternative is "going out of my mind" and you need to stay firm that you refuse to do that! I used to wake up at 5:00 to maintain my mind/body and soul. It was the only hour of my day that I could control. If you are looking for time in your schedule you may not find it, if you make time in your schedule you'll be much better off.
It is worthwhile to invest in having professional caregivers come in sometime to provide respite on the weekends or during the weekday. There may be other siblings, relatives and friends who you may be able to call on, but that can be an imposition although they may not want to say so. Now, other siblings can certainly chip in to pay for home health care...the very least they can do. The cost can run from $18-$23 per hour, requiring a minimum of 4 hours to be taken in one day.
You sounds like you are burning out. Does anyone care for your mother while you are at work? Do you have any siblings? Would it be possible to bring in some caregivers on weekends to give you a break? If you drop dead to the floor, then who is going to take care of your mother? Have you investigated the reputation of the nursing homes in your area?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Warm wishes,
Carol
While I've never been great at finding (or making) "me time," I have made the effort. Without doing so I'd have completely burned out long ago. For me, the answer has been getting up at 4 a.m. so I can meditate. That may not be the answer for many people but it's helped me. Others may consider that self-punishment but my point is that we must try to find something that works for us.
Please keep telling us how you are doing. We know how your are feeling as much as anyone else can and you'll get a variety of views from the community.
Blessings,
Carol
Thank you.