My grandmother reached the point where she needed full care and is 100% dependent on others. She lived in Kentucky and my father and step mother decided to move her into their home in California because they felt guilty about putting her into a home. They own their own business and my wife and I both work for them because we are in school and they are flexible with our hours. They figured out they bit more off than they could chew by bringing her on. So they told my wife and I that we need to take care of her when we aren't at work because it is "our duty as family". And after saying no they threatened to fire us at our jobs. So we are forced to care for her. We literally spend every moment we arent at work caring for her. Wake her up, clean up her bed, carry her down stairs, feed her, physical therapy, speech therapy, bathroom trips, more sheet cleaning, throw up cleaning, medication, the whole 9 yards. Then we get to go into work. Then we go to school, then back to grandma. And after an entire day of this my wife and I get to have dinner and if we can manage it, stay up and watch tv for an hour then go to sleep. I am 23 by the way. My whole life revolves around this. I want my life back. My wife and I constantly fight about things. This whole situation is garbage. I was in the Army and nothing I put up with there compares to this madness. I feel horrible for thinking this way but I just want her to die so I can save my marriage and have my life back. I can not quit my job or risk being fired I need to pay the bills. And before anyone says it, I am not using my GI Bill I am saving it. I feel terrible but I literally see her and hope she doesnt wake up when I get her up in the morning. I hate my life right now. I put in my time for my country and was excited about getting out and moving on with my life. Now I wish I would have enlisted for another 4 years. Does anyone have any tips? Similar experiences? I AM GOING CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This whole situation is garbage.
You should be able to love your grandmother, visiting her occasionally, NOT being responsible for her care.
Your parents can't bare to place her where she can get good care 24/7, and they can't take care of her themselves. Looks like they'll have to come up with another solution, doesn't it?