My boyfriend's father has dementia and has put himself into a serious amount of debt. He is in stage 3 of his Alzheimer and does not need supervision at all times. Currently, my boyfriend's father can not remember anything short term, he is not allowed to drive (and struggling with this..very angry) he is unable to prepare food or make healthy choices. He is very lethargic and is becoming very depressed. My boyfriend is 25 and is living pay check to pay check and now is in charge of supporting his 87 year old father. We do not have the money to pay for a caregiver and I am wondering what free services exist to lower income families who are not eligible for medicaid/medicare. We work 8-5 everyday and are not home to take him out or to care for him throughout the day. We are looking for a service to pick him up in the morning when we leave for work and then help him with daily routines, socializing and possibility developing new hobbies. This is all so new to me and I need help. My boyfriend is in denial that his father has dementia and is not willing to hear any of it or talk about it. I am desperate. Thank you.
We here cannot stress any further that your boyfriend should remain employed.... his father could live 10 more years with dementia.... I don't think your boyfriend wants to be out of work that long. And with dementia, the disease doesn't get better, it doesn't stay the same, it only gets worse. Eventually his father will need 24 hour around the clock care.
Do Alzhiemer meetings exist?
The house is an exempt asset. If he goes into Medicaid funded care, a line will be placed on it.
Do not under any circumstances quit your job to care for him in hopes of an inheritance. Many, many sad stories here about that path.
Thank you for your help!! :)
There's help available. It may involve lots of paperwork and searching but worth the effort. Good luck!