I am trying to learn caregiver techniques but frustrated now. Has trouble with any time of electronic device, tv clicker, phone, microwave. Can't follow recipes.. Doesn't want to eat or eats very little. Wants to go everywhere and I can't get any me time. Won't let anyone come in to help at all. Any advice?
You have to take care of you, and whatever is required you have to figure out a way. If you think it is difficult now, it will only get worse. If she will not go to a day program I would start looking for a memory care facility. It may be your only chance to live the rest of YOUR life!
Paradise is right about the risk of shortening your own life by being ashamed or bashful about asking for help. Please start preparing yourself for the possibility of her being unable to live alone without being a danger to herself. Start reaching out to her nieces and nephews and ask them how the family would like to handle her situation.
Many people are in the same position that you are in. What do we do when someone won't go to a facility, but refuses to let help come into their homes. It is a worrisome problem with no easy answer. The best we can do is try to convince the person. The alternative is to wait for the crisis that will come and take it from there.
I don't understand the loss of appetite. That is not common until the latter stages of dementia. It does sound like she needs the help of doctors.
Ultimately, you will learn that you will have to make some difficult decisions. One thing about bringing in help . . . I told my Mom that my friend wanted to work with seniors but needed experience. Could she visit with my Mom and then we could provide a reference? IT WORKED. Good luck.