My dad insist on wearing this swede vest that is disgusting looking. Stained and dirty looking, I'm afraid people are going to think he is not well cared for ? Today he put on a pair of clean pants but again they have stains and look bad. My girlfriend said I need to say something, and I have but he won't spend the money to clean the vest and when I said something about the pants he said " Who cares ?" He only gets out for a hour a day at a local donut shop and sometimes meets friends. But I gotta say he looks terrible and I can't get him to see it. People use to say he was always well dressed, but I doubt anyone thinks that anymore. What other approaches can I take besides stealing the stuff away and trashing it ? My dad has dementia and bad heart and stressing him out is one thing I try to avoid.
Are you POA? If you are, take some of his money and buy him some new clothes.
When I cared for my dad it was always a priority for me that he look tidy and clean. If I couldn't get stains out of his clothes I would buy him some new clothes at Walmart. At Christmas and Father's Day and birthdays he'd get new clothes from nicer stores.