My mom goes ballistic at the thought of leaving her home and gets completely hysterical. She refuses to believe anything is wrong with her. I don't know if her brain isn't processing anything or if she's in complete denial. I have made arrangements with a local caregiver to get her moved after the holidays and have POA. How do I get her to move physically when the day comes? She will be literally kicking and screaming. Do I call 911 if she goes hysterical? I know I'm doing what needs to be done but I want this transition to be ad smooth and lain free as possible for all involved. Mom has always been difficult and hard to manage and fights me with everything. Even taking over her bills was traumatic for her.
I'm on lorazepam for my nerves and I feel awful doing this but I'm an only child with no help and I'm trying to keep her out of a nursing home. This is the best solution but she'll never go willingly. How do I do this without forcing her into the car? I have nightmares about it.
That's the point of of a POA otherwise why have it?
(1) make health care decisions, as that term is defined in chapter 121 of this title;
So if you force her into a nursing home, your POA will be revoked and you may find yourself in court facing a prosecutor. Go back to the lawyer and explain your plans.