My 93 year old mom lives with my brother. Due to swallowing problems she only takes ensure. juice, and water. She will not drink well for him, she also will not get up and walk around in the house for exercise, she just sits in her chair or lays in her bed When I am there she will drink what I give her and will walk through the house with me. I use the approach of here is some juice for you to drink now, and I say here's your cane let's take a walk through the house. The minute I leave she goes back to just sitting there. What can I do to get her to listen to him?
Her memory, her desires, her what to do now, has all gone.
Your brother needs to realise that he is caring for a doll, if you want it to move, then move it, if you want to feed it then feed it. approach.
It is not his mother needing the care and attention , the one who nurtured him for all those years. but this 'doll'
That is why so many folk put their loved ones in rest homes, or that need to be in rest homes. They are living beyond their capabilities of independence.
Whether that helps or not, but yes a wee bit more info so we can help .. good luck
A lot more information about your Mom's capacity, her relationship with your brother, the environment, etceteras is needed to come up with potential solutions to help your mother live as fully as possible :)
As for the swallowing I found several exercises on the internet to help older people improve their ability to swallow. But again you'll need to have her actually do the exercises for this work. I found Boost VHC, (very high calorie drink) on the internet. It packs over 500 calories in an 8 ounce container. I highly recommend this as it is tasty and is well received.
Sooo, tell your brother to take deep breath, remain loving and supportive and pray for the best. My prayers are with you both!