I made the decisions after he fell. I am now home all day and night. And when i visit him he tells me NO PLACE LIKE Home, Im 57 yrs old he's early 80s.
He is not sick, but they have stopped getting him up and all he does is lay in bed and watch tv. I want to bring him to my home, and of course get him help here!!
He now wears an adult diaper with no chance of getting up to go. Changing him I would need help. What are your thought on this??? He deserves to be at home for n matter how many yrs in his life left. I am POA can the nursing home stop me? His pension and S.S goes into a account each month and I write the total bill to them every month. Its sick they take everything. Im done with him being there, and know it wont be easy.
I always say the caregivers are so forgotten!! I have not made up my mind as of yet I want to do a little more planning.. And also suggest i wouldn't change him mad me upset. So Thank You!! A Little kindness goes a long way For Sure
Does HE want to leave, or is this move based on your perception of his quality of life? Aside from the actual caregiving, the two of you living on your own would become very isolated.
People ask why someone is in a nursing home to get more information so that they have a better grasp of the situation. I assume he has long term care insurance that is helping to pay for him being in the nursing home. Is that correct or is he on medicaid? My dad's long term care insurance pays for full time 24/7 care in his house. Would that be a possibility for your dad if he has long term care insurance?
It sounds to me like you have already made up your mind about what you are going to do which is fine.
Frankly, I don't see the questions people have asked as attacks on you, but as sincere questions because people care about you. For some reason your tone is very defensive which makes conversation difficult.
I guess I'm just different I never reach out for advice and I do and I get "u cant change him", why is he in nursing home etc,etc My God If this is a support page I'm Sorry For All!!! I'm looking for nice not nasty! Please if you have any suggestion's for me that are truthful and helpful,and are at least nice please responde but if your going to attack my good intentions don't bother.. I take this very serious
God Bless
I want him to be happier.. Have A great day and thanks for the input....
You'd be much smarter to go visit him and if the aides can help get him up, take him for a walk in his wheelchair or take him for an activity. Taking on his full-time care is a big, big mistake in my opinion.