My parents are 89 & 86. Mom has dementia and sleeps a lot during the day. My dad often buries himself in paperwork. I know they are both bored but I can't get them to socialize. They both need some company & I need some help caring for them - laundry and ironing would be great and some light housework. They are really resistant to anyone coming in ....
If they're on their own, tell your father that your mother needs help with the housework and tell your mother that your father has asked you to find her some help with the housework. It isn't lying - you just have to be a bit nimble about the order in which you tell them the different things.
If you live with them, tell them *you* need some help with the housework.
A new face and an extra pair of hands are a good idea. I'd just not expect too much on the social interaction front. Your parents may seem bored - though I doubt if your mother is - but here's the thing: when you are losing friends and your activities are falling by the wayside, you don't want a new social life, you want your old one back, and it just isn't possible.
I hope your parents will welcome the new recruit! And any stimulation is better than none. But if you make practical support the main aim you won't be disappointed if they don't actually 'make friends' with the new person; and importantly you won't be setting her up to fail - after all, it won't be her fault if they don't fall on her neck with gratitude!
Are you just getting up or going to bed?
Karen
This is an exceedingly difficult task if your parents have never even had someone help with the housekeeping and they are used to being alone
Depending on your needs try to make them your friend coming for a visit
As hard as I tried to keep my mom at home she just wouldn't accept strangers coming in and with my long work hours I needed more than just one agency hired caregiver
Also you may need to keep your expectations realistic about cooking and cleaning etc if you cook ahead of time they'll be able to hear it up in the microwave but I still had a housekeeper even with a caregiver 12 hours a day - their cleaning consisted of putting dishes in the dishwasher and carrying the trash out- but then trying to care for a demented 92 year old is no picnic and most caregivers don't make much more than min wage
Now that mom is in memory care I still have private sitters for her and every time the agency has to send someone knew I cringe as it take weeks sometimes for her to accept a new person - sometimes my friend will go to smooth the transition and the three of them will do a jigsaw puzzle - having a friend to make the introduction is better than me personally as she wants no one but me when I am around
Good luck and let us know how it goes