When I went to a general grief support group, one of the members during break told me "you expect to bury your parents, but NOT your child, now THAT'S grief." How do I get past my anger toward this woman & know it's perfectly OK to grive for my beloved parents? I'm very close w/both & I know I will be totally devastated when mom passes. I told a close friends this & all she said was TWO words, "I know." NOTHING else, not God will help you through it AND she belives in God!!!After she said that I felt a great sense of relief knowing it's OK to be devastated. But how do I get past my anger for that woman? Thanks.
I'm mean and ornery enough, that if my sense of loss and pain had been ignored or diminished by specific actions .. either from another griever or from the facilitator, I'd be going directly to who or whatever is sponsoring the event. "Are you kidding?? You let people basically tell me that my pain is nothing compared to someone else's?? I'll be sure to let all MY friends know what kind of non-caring, irresponsible organization you're running. Have business cards?" (and one by one tear the things up)
I suggest that you go back to this group and see the pain and emptiness that others are feeling... there will be others that you will connect with... it's a simple act of empathy to let the other lady know you 'heard' her.... you don't have to like her, you don't even have to forgive her, but that just adds to your own pain.... I pray that you find a solution that works for you....people say hurtful things when they are hurting... it's just life...what we do with that speaks about us, not them.... sending you lots of hugs...
As a follower of Jesus Christ, He demonstrated the upmost forgiveness of our sins by dying on the cross for me... and by believing in Him - that he died on the cross for my sins, and was resurrected from the dead three days later, I have that same ability to forgive through the Holy Spirit. I've been victimized and hurt deeply, but I have forgiven my offenders. That does not mean I trust them. Don't confuse the two.
Your anger will turn to resentment and bitterness - and such will paralyze you and negatively effect you.. Bitterness is never healthy.
Bless you. The loss of our parent(s) is really painful.. we become orphans.
living, gas, and the afterlife (NOT "gas")
for guidance in the FAITH department (NOT "face")
seems like what's HAPPENED IN these two cases
1 person has given you A very matter of fact (NOT "hey")
have an affinity with or KNOW they are open minded (NOT "no")