Her appetite was very poor for about 6 months and lost stones in weight. The other day I tried to get her up as usual and she just couldn't stand and said she felt dreadful. My husband and I put her to bed a week past Sunday and there she's been ever since. The Dr has been out and has sent the district nurse in. She sleeps day and night on and off and eats very little and also drinks very little. It's heart breaking watching her and I'm hoping for her and my husband's sake this process will not take very long.
If you see no facial signs of distress, grimacing furrowing of her brow, clenching of facial features then I would suspect that she is in no pain.
Use moist swabs to keep her mouth moist.
If she shows any indication of wanting to drink thicken water and place on a swab but do not put fluid in her mouth directly as she may choke.
There are indications that she is at End of Life.
There are breathing changes. There are changes to the skin coloring.
Talk to her, hold her hand.