Well, it happened. I feel incredibly guilty because I yelled at my MIL that lives with me and told her she had to use her walker no matter what if she wants us to continue to care for her. It is too dangerous not to. She is on Eliquis. She does not have dementia but she is 94 and not stable on her feet.
Because someone is elderly doesn't that mean we can't get mad at them? I don't have kids and I feel like this is something people with kids go through.
Thoughts? Suggestions?
Appreciatively,
Kim
My Mother is exactly the same but she made it through hip surgery and a fractured pelvis. She is 96. She now uses her walker! At some level at the age of 95 and beyond it is a sort of blessing when they pass away. My heart breaks for my Mother as I know she wants to go. Everything she does is an effort and my husband and I would be so thankful if she did pass. I hope that doesn't sound too weird but it's honest. This is never easy and it's the frustration of caring for them so much that when they don't listen to you you lose it. I could write a book about what we've gone through in the last 16 years, yes 16 years, after my Father passed. Everything you wrote is so spot on, thank you for sharing!
Don't make yourself feel worse than you already do. Forget it, (your loved one has!) and move forward. Know that there will be times you are so frustrated you snap. It will happen. Just take a beat, calm yourself as much as you can and move forward.
You are not alone,