We are having issues getting her POA changed as my sister is fighting us and the doctor. What other options do I have to care for my mother. She lives with me and my family takes care of her 365 days a year 24 hours a day. The attorney is dragging his feet making changes to her will and POA and I need to know if there are any other options I may have to fight my sister.
Good luck. I don't think you can do this without legal help, but there are a lot of attoney's around. You may want to ask for references.
Carol
If that's just a typo, and you do have documented Power of Attorney for your mother, and your mother's doctors have certified that she has dementia and needs to be placed in Memory Care, then this is what you do.
Use APS as a source of advice and information.
Find out what Memory Care facilities are available in your mother's area, and able to take her.
Using your Power of Attorney, make the arrangements for your mother to be admitted.
Again, work with/consult social workers if you need practical help and assistance with the admission because your mother is resistant to it.
Sell your mother's house, transferring the funds to a dedicated account solely for your mother's benefit.
Without knowing what you're likely to get for the house I can't guess how much money your mother will end up with; but it doesn't sound as if it's going to be a fortune and Memory Care is very expensive. So you will also need to apply for Medicaid and any other state benefits she might be entitled to. APS should be able to advise you, or if not them they'll know who can.
If APS has been called on to investigate *you* three times - who by, by the way? - I can imagine they're not you're favourite people even if they have completely cleared you of any wrongdoing. No-one could enjoy that process. But now it's time for them to help you, so don't hesitate to ask.
These two articles might be able to help you answer your question.
How to Get Power of Attorney Ready Before Aging Parents Get Sick3
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/How-to-get-Power-of-Attorney-ready-before-aging-parents-get-sick-134109.htm
and
How to Get Guardianship of an Elderly Parent
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-get-guardianship-of-elderly-parents-140693.htm
Hope this helps,
Karie H.
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