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Net Care said they would try to talk to her. She does like doctors. I can not force her to go. She does not have to leave her house until the end of February. I have asked relatives to help talk to her. They are not able to see how depressed she is feeling. She has given up and I can not step in legally and help her.
Make an apt with her dr or have your dr make a referral to a physician who deals with elders...explain that you want both physical and mental evaluation. Insist on it!
Call APS and tell don't tell them mom is "okay", insist APS make a home visit and try to be present. They should be able to put in place an emergency plan, maybe a months rent, or find a bed in a group home for seniors, etc.
guardianship is expensive and demanding. You will not gain anything with guardianship and will still bear the burden of having to find her housing, care, etc.
You need outside help and support to help your mom realize and understand her circumstances and help her cooperate to stabilize her living situation.
She may be having a medical or mental crisis that needs to be evaluated. Is this normal behavior for her or completely out of the blue?
Where is she now? Didn't you say she was evicted? Is she sleeping in a shelter or on the street? If APS said to call Net Care, did you call Net Care? You are not giving up on your mom, you cannot make another person do things they do not want to do if they are in their right mind. And proving someone is not in their right mind is a difficult task as it should be. No, this is not an easy situation and I'm sorry this has happened.
APS will not help. If the supervisor decides that my Mom needs help. They might evaluate. They will not do anything about being a guardian. She said to contact Net Care for an evaluation. Everyone is telling me to give up my Mom. Let her hit rock bottom. That seems wrong.
Thank you for your help. I will follow through with your advice. It is a very sad situation. I want to protect and help her, but I will listen to what you have written. Thank you.
Sad Girl, you call the county social services and step back when they pursue protective custody. She will become a Ward of the State. Do NOT take her in.
You are out of options to help her directly, but that's because she won't let you help her. This is not your fault. The best thing you can do is to alert APS. The courts will appoint a guardian. Mental illness is a very sad thing, but again, not your fault.
SadGirl, it will cost much more that $900, involves going to court and having doctors to testify that she is incompetent, that is not competent to handle her affairs in a business like manner.
You call adult protective services. You can no longer help her if she won't allow you to. You tell them that she's a danger to herself. She needs an in house psychiatric workup. If you think it will mske any difference, you tell her that you're stepping away and letting the state take over.
Who would I call? I want to rent an apartment for her. I have to have her siganture and be able to tell them that she will pay. They want the contract tomorrow or Tuesday. She will not sign the contract.
She is 82. She can handle most things. Finances at this point are a problem. No one has POA. We do not have the funds to get guardianship. Have not talked to any one in the agency. She wants to live on the street.
So, tell us her age, mental status and physical impairments. Do you have POA, or does anyone else? Do you have the funds and resources to get guardianship? Have you talked to the area agency on aging if she is an elder?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Call APS and tell don't tell them mom is "okay", insist APS make a home visit and try to be present. They should be able to put in place an emergency plan, maybe a months rent, or find a bed in a group home for seniors, etc.
guardianship is expensive and demanding. You will not gain anything with guardianship and will still bear the burden of having to find her housing, care, etc.
You need outside help and support to help your mom realize and understand her circumstances and help her cooperate to stabilize her living situation.
She may be having a medical or mental crisis that needs to be evaluated. Is this normal behavior for her or completely out of the blue?