We are having a family meeting with adult protective services and Dad today. Only 1 of 6 sibs can join me. I dont want to petition for Guardianship because I fear it would cause very bad hurt among everyone, but not sure. APS wont remove mom unless dire situation. Meeting is to discuss concerns and can't go in with goal of moving them per worker. I've been there 21 times in 2019, 1 hour away, work full time plus OT, husband is recovering from back surgery. I'm requesting each sib take a month this year to take calls, visit call Dad. My health has suffered, can't continue. Plan to voice all today. help!
You cant go to the meeting with the goal of removing them...but you can go in with the goal of making sure Mom gets more care, and not by you. That’s the bottom line, however it happens. Make sure you have your ducks in a row with examples of her vulnerability at his hands. Please come back later and tell us how it went. Stay strong for her, you are her voice. Big hug
Let the state have guardianship of your mother (is she to that point?). You've done enough, and now it's time for your own life. Realize that your sibs aren't going to change. The situation won't change unless YOU change.
Keep us updated, including what happens at the meeting with APS today.
It is interesting to me 6 siblings and only 1 feels the need to participate, many years ago the parents idea was to have a slew of children, so that when they needed to be cared for, the children would do it...not so much today....only a handful, like you, do anything.
I am of the opinion that your siblings will not take over the responsibility of monthly care giving and that this will lead to even more issues. Good Luck, hope that your meeting goes well.
i would inform my siblings that what you are seeking is for the State to assume guardianship...and what that means is that none of them would have any say over what happens, and might not even be kept informed.
this is something you have to do because you cannot go on like this. This Burden on just you is beyond what one person can do....so, failing all else...you have to ask the State to step in.