She can't walk at all but she knows me. I feel so sorry for her, she has never been more pitiful. I lay my head on her chest and kiss her face several times a day and give her a few drops to drink. I never thought watching mom die would be so hard. What can I do to help her? What if she wants to tell me something and can't? Any thoughts?
What I feel in my heart is that my father's soul left his body quite some time before he struggled with his last breath. His body's death was something that was very difficult to witness, but his soul's eternal life is something nobody COULD witness. Just something we have to have blind faith in, you know? As hard as the body struggles to pass, the soul is free and joyous & in no more pain or suffering. Dancing again with no restrictions whatsoever. THAT is the message to hold onto now, when your heart is aching and you so want to 'do' something but can't. Hold her hand, kiss her cheek, and let her know you're there. Even if her body cannot respond, her SOUL can.............and knows you're there and is smiling down on you, thanking you for your love & affection.
Sending you a virtual hug and a prayer for a peaceful transition for your dear mother.
What you're doing so far is good. As others below have stated, make her comfortable. Perhaps play soft music or let it be quiet. Place photos of her loved ones around her so she can see them. If she has a favorite "things" (like a stuffed animal or other objects), let her hold them. Tell her your favorite lessons she taught you and the impact of them on your life or the times she made you proud of her. If she has a favorite prayer, say it for her. Read to her a chapter from her favorite book or a passage from your favorite book if that passage reminds you of her.
Please, if you change anything you're doing, please go easy on yourself. Try to get some rest (I know, that's NOT easy). Let family / friends know so they can say their farewells--being very careful so it's not hard on or noisy for your mother.
*hug*
For some reason, her children wouldn’t talk to her or touch her. I think they were too much in shock to see her this way. So sad.
I hope OP's hospice company gave her a booklet explaining the dying process. Some are a little sappy, but they are very helpful. I even told the company that's helping my own mother right now that their book is a tad hokey -- too much "she's sailing off into the sunset" stuff -- and they said they'd look into getting one that's a little more realistic and factual. The one we received with my dad was infinitely better.