Right now I am caring for my Gramma who had been tossed into nursing homes and bounced around for 2 years by her own children. I came home from Texas where I had moved to get away from this bunch of losers so called family over 3 years ago. Now to make sure she doesn't have to spend her last confused short time she has left all tied down in some cold lonely nasty nursing care place I came to do the right thing and if it kills me I won't let her down on my promise that she never has to go back. she has 4 adult children who have taken everything of value she had, and threw her away to die. She was a HUGE enabler in the dysfunctional unit because she felt guilty for her kids dad who abused them so she overcompensated by giving them everything and not letting them be responsible for anything. she had 6 kids her2 youngest died before they were even 50 yrs old due to drugs and drinking. they still lived with her at the time. now in the place she rented after being evicted from everywhere they went because of her kids...she has been at this location for over 17 yrs. now only the oldest son remains living here and he is trying to push her/us out. I cant even describe the feeling of rage and disgust I have for this poor excuse for a son. I need to get her out of her if we are ever going to allow her some good, comfortable, happy moments before she passes. but we are broke, i have no income, shes on widows benefits and we can't make it to move out on our own. Is there anything i can do about the way he is treating her and trying to make her want to leave? its very sneaky, subtle mental abuse that can't really be proved. I'm so freaking ready to go insane :( she suffers from depression (as do I ) dementia, blood pressure issues, immobility, and is going down hill quick...like she is giving in to make him happy....she is a huge peace keeper. won't stand up for herself at all. i dunno what to do or where to turn.