Husband had 6 brain hemorrhages and just had a blood clot in his brain. I take care of mom, in remission. I work. How do I deal with my husband? He gets frustrated and watches everything I do. He follows me around, even to the bathroom. I am a teacher. He goes to school with me in the mornings, hangs at my school. My administrator does not mind. He waits around for me all the time. He watches and stares at me. Also, I am taking care of my Mom. This is her second time in remission from Mantle Cell Lymphoma. Her heart is now only working 20%. My Dad just passed, of Cancer, in August. How can I do it all? I do have a successful brother, but his advice was, "It is what it is, so do what you gotta do." Hum....
You brother is not going to step in either way, but if you ask him about a nursing home, I think he will support your decision.