I have written in many questions and I am sorry for being a pest but our family is in turmoil at the hands of my sister and brother-in-law. Anyway, it turns out SIS (recently revoked POA and trustee) was stealing from Mom and Dad. My parents do not know where their Social Security is deposited. I want to take them to the banks to remove SIS from their accounts, but I have no clue where to start. Does Social Security have a website to help figure this out? I believe all SS checks HAVE to be direct deposited, right???
That is where I would start looking, as stated above Contact SS with your parents beside you and see if you can find out anything. If a debit card was issued and your parents are not aware of it you have more ammunition for your case.
Also do your parents have a SS on line account with SS? If so things may have been changed without their knowledge.
But immediately? The important thing is to get your parents' lives back under responsible control. And how they would feel about their daughter and husband being arrested is important, too. Apart from not upsetting them - though that does matter too because their peace of mind is an essential part of their overall welfare - it is going to be more difficult and more complicated to establish what exactly took place (and therefore make any potential charges stick) if your parents are giving statements under protest.
Following up the financial abuse issues, though; all in good time, eh. I think Concerned probably has enough on her plate for the time being just getting things in hand.
Well done for stepping up, hope things calm down soon.
Did your mother give you a new POA, by the way, remind me? It'll make your life easier if she did.