I just lost my mother 4 in April. I refuse to put him into a nursing home. But I can not quit my job. It is killing me on how I can making a living while at home with him. I am still not dealing well with losing my mother i wont let him die alone in a hospital of any kind when he can be at home.
You've got a very tough row to hoe here, Tina. Don't let it destroy you. Hang on tight.
If he has the funds, he can go to a nursing home and enter the hospice program. If he HAS no funds he can go to a nursing home and enter the hospice program. Sounds like that's where he belongs and where he'll be most comfortable. That's allll that should matter to you.
I'd urge you to think about what's best for your dad, not what's best for you to make you feel as though you've done your best. Sometimes "doing our best" involves knowing when we're in over our heads.
Arrange for him to get into a hospice program, and they will assist you in getting him the proper care...which will probably involve putting him into a nursing home. Then you can be his loving daughter, with him as much as you possibly can be, and keep your job.
It will be easier on both of you.