I am 10 years younger than my husband. He, obviously, has many health issues. Basically, I do everything around here now and I'm feeling like a housekeeper. I cook, taking care of pets and gardening plus all the caregiving.
How do you get past the negative off all this, especially when it looks like it's going to get nothing but worse?
This will not get better, unfortunately, only worse.
You are starting the burnout phase of caregiving, a terrible spot to be in.
Have you looked into local senior day care facilities, many times there is a local county one that you can take him to several times a week, Our local Meals On Wheels Plus also has a daycare program near me in Florida.
You have to get away from him, spend some quality time with you, yourself.
I would start looking into this option understanding that eventually you may need to find him a permanent new home such as AL or MC.
Sending support your way.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how painful it must be to lose a child. I have two daughters and it would break my heart to lose them.
I saw how devastating it was for my mother to bury her first born son.
Caregiving on top of grieving is a lot to handle. I hope that you have someone helping out on a regular basis. If not, please consider looking into hiring additional support.
You recognize that caregiving is taking a toll on you. Honor your feelings without any guilt. You didn’t cause your husband’s health issues and you cannot fix them.
If this situation is becoming too much for you consider touring some assisted living facilities for him so you can get some rest and return to being his wife without the burden of caregiving.
Wishing you peace.