Hello some of you may remember me been taking care of ,my mom for 14 years, With out going in to everything I need to ask how exactly do I place my mother in a home, anymore I cannot HELp if judged for this but at point where she is worse Lewy body dem. last stage Pd supposedly I just do not have strength to take care of her anymore and guess this is sad or bad to admit I do not want to anymore. I feel its time to stop neglecting my own health issues and pay more attention to ,my marriage which this time last year husband was diagnosed with stage 3 melonoma cancer I also just cannot stand how my mom is acting due to her sickness meaning always undressing fights me when she has bm and for this I get super upset. don't like when she fights me on cleaning up bm she has never done this b4.also have developed screaming all the time wich is wrong for her and at this point need someone to give her care better then me .all her money used up now taking care of her yes I know apply for Medicaid I have rented apt in her home for over 16 years Im only child can they take her home. where di I turn how do I put her in home where does first payment come from please open to advice, Thank you all and God bless
Plus you need some rest real bad.
Call your local Agency on Aging... to find it go to the top of this screen and on the blue bar going across you will see CAREGIVER SUPPORT... put your Mouse over that and a drop down menu will appear.... click on "Find Agencies on Aging". Then find your State, and then find your County. Hopefully someone there could direct you how to start.
I bet some others here may know more too. I hope they can help with more info. With the holidays upon us, the boards might be slow though.
If you mom's main ailment is dementia, have you looked into what resources your state has for Memory Care Assisted Living? In some states that's handled a little differently than that for a nursing home. You might investigate and see what her actual needs are so you know what type of care she needs.
I'm sorry you feel so conflicted. IMO the only people who judge someone for getting their loved one the help they need are those who don't understand the need or do not fully appreciate the situation. Getting your mom a place where they can help her is a sign of good judgment. I just don't understand why people feel conflicted for doing that. I hope it works out for you both.