Mom drinks beer everyday and is very difficult to deal with. Hell bent on not moving and says no one can make her move. Nephew lives in the home with her and is her caregiver. She gets around well but doesn't want to bathe or leave the home often. Home paid for, very mean. I am guardian and conservator
Is she drinking the beer because she likes it, or is she drinking it just because it is in the fridge and she isn't aware that she is drinking beer, not just a beveridge that tastes good to her? As freqflyer asked, who is buying the beer?
I think you are looking at a nursing home and they will handle the bathing problem.
My mother complies after years of refusing. She is 96. We had to wait until she fell and then, could no longer live alone.
Of course, alcoholism makes all of your problems 2 fold. Good luck.
Does the beer contribute to the difficulties? How much is she drinking each day?
Would her doctors agree that she is not competent to make her own decisions? If she can be declared incompetent and you became her guardian then you could probably "make" her move. But short of that (which is a court case) you may not be able to force the issue.
Another way to have an elder who has memory issues to move to a continuing care facility, unfortunately, is through a medical emergency, such as a bad fall or an illness. Then the elder goes from the ER into the hospital, and then into assisted living.
Maybe it is time for the nephew to move on, or his he dependent on your Mom as she is on him? Is he employed? Could he afford to move to a place of his own?