My husband really resents having Mom live with us: it's been 8 years and I don't know what to do. I won't put her in a home and she's not in need of a huge amount of care, just constants like meds, meals, monitoring things like cleanliness and clothing choices, and dr. appointments. She goes to a senior center regularly, but her presence has begun to wear on us; if this sounds cruel I'm sorry, but our lives revolve around mom and my husband and I are always arguing about nit picky things she does or says. It's hard having someone constantly with you and really not be able to live our own lives.
I think of the strong work ethic that my father taught me. I am forever grateful to him.
He told me things from day one in my very first job as a teenager that I still value and always will value because it was sound, solid advice.
Life truly is compromise. It’s a dance of give and take. Don’t fret the small stuff. Walk away if you have a valid reason to. Try not to burn any bridges along the way.
Hopefully a compromise can come about and maybe we will be stronger in the long run.
I, myself, had to leave my husband to move to my mother's state 7 states away from mine as she demanded to live alone.
There are beautiful, well equipped assisted living facilities. You need to visit a few